Premature Ejaculation

Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is a common complaint of many young men. Many of their partners feel frustrated by this situation too. Young men often become very sexually aroused quite quickly; touch their hand and they have an erection. While this is flattering for his partner, it’s not necessarily very satisfying for a sexual relationship.

By the way, the average male takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion until he ejaculates. According to the technical definition, premature ejaculation is ejaculation that occurs prior to when a man wishes, or too quickly during intercourse to satisfy the partner. This usually leads to the loss of a usable erection for the simple reason that their discharge has temporarily released a state of elevated sexual tension.

What can a guy do? There are a few very simple things that will help: First, he can masturbate before he goes out with his partner. This will make him able to last longer. (Just a idea, but it does work). Understanding male sexual responses helps. If a guy ejaculates quickly, he is going to lose his erection, and this “refractory phase” will last about fifteen to twenty minutes in a young man. There is really nothing either person can do to trigger another erection. (See “Masturbation” and phases of an orgasm for more.)

During the refractory phase he can stimulate his partner, including: kissing, cuddling, hugging, petting, stimulating breasts and genitals. After twenty minutes of stimulation she may be very sexually aroused and he will probably have another erection.

As a guy ages, his refractory phase gets longer. Many guys learn to control ejaculation by practicing Kegel exercises" on a regular basis. Go to Kegel Exercises for more on doing those.

Women often feel that they should be able to do something to “help” him or that they are doing something wrong. Basically, this is his 'situation', and he needs to solve it himself. But, you can talk to him about it and lessen the expectation that he must sexually satisfy you every time.